Anne LouiseYou want to lose weight. You decide that tomorrow you will start eating healthy and start exercising. You promise yourself that this time you will stick to it. Finally, you decide not to tell anyone about it. Because “what if I fail…”
Does this sound familiar?
It certainly does to me. I have lain in bed Sunday evening vowing to myself that tomorrow will be the day I will change my life! But I also don’t want to tell anyone about it. I imagine 6 months down the road, showing my new body off to friends and family who are amazed. How did I do that? I’d tell them about all the healthy foods and exercise I had done etc. etc.
Then next day I get up and I live my life exactly as I have until now – no change what so ever!
Why? Why do we try to change our life by ourselves and keep it a secret?
Because we are afraid of failure!
If I didn’t tell anyone about my weight loss challenges then I don’t have to be accountable to anyone!
Now, I have learnt! I have learnt that this does not work. Keeping it to yourself does not work! I need support and you need support!
We are trying to change our life! Not just our shoes or bag. No, our freaking LIFE! That’s a big deal!
Losing weight is not about going on a diet and then returning to old habits when you are done. Losing weight happens when you start to change your life. The weight should stay off; therefore your new habits should stay on.
Please don’t lose weight in secret. Chances are if you want to do it in secret, then there are probably some other issues that you need to work around first. Issues that are perhaps more important than the extra weight you are carrying.
Please order the salad when everyone else is ordering steak. It takes courage, but at the end of the day, whose life are you living, theirs or yours?
Please don’t feel ashamed to reschedule a meet up with a friend because it falls on the same time as your exercise schedule. It’s your body! You have to live with it, not them! And if they are your friends, then they will understand! And hopefully know that you are trying to turn your life around!
Be real with yourself and your surroundings. Don’t be ashamed. After all, you are taking care of the most important person in your life!
Please join my Support group on Facebook. It’s amazing to have a community with like-minded people to support each other. See you there 🙂
Aw, love it, Anne Louise 🙂 spot on!
Thank you for this article! I am writing about motivation and encouraging people as well and I am convinced that you get stronger by strong support from friends and family. And that you need to be surrounded by people who motivate you to stick to your goals. I have experienced it myself on my weightloss journey that people start to despise you for your discipline and power of endurance. I understand that this is another reason for people to keep it a secret but I honestly hope that those things will change and that everyone can be open and honest with his/her goals about lowing weight and exercising. And I think people like you and articles like this one can help.
Thanks!
Julia
Thank you for your comment! It is so much better and easier to achieve goals with someone or when you are being held accountable from someone! When people start despising you it is often disguised as jealousy. As I tell me clients; be proud of who you are and proud to be taking care of yourself now. Who will laugh in the future 😉
thanks for this motivational post. I really need to lose weight, and just posted my intentions on my blog since I need some kind of support.
Thank you for your comment. It is so important to have support when you are trying to reach a goal. Losing weight is one of the toughest. I am so happy that you are reaching out. You should be proud of yourself. Did you see my Facebook group? You are welcome to join! Link is at the bottom of this page. Let me know if I can help you – email me hello@getreal.lu
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